Tired of losing the dating game?
Looking for something fun and casual
or long lasting and loving?
Then put the dating successes and failures
of over 10,000 single men and women to work for you.
Veteran Hollywood Bartender tells all.
The Truth at last.
Dated
From Bryan Redfield
Dear Friend,
Whether you're looking for something fun and casual or long lasting and loving, if you're single, lonely, over 28, into self help and tired of losing the dating game, my 14 years of research is the answer to your prayers.
"Why?" you ask.
Because it will solve every dating problem you have.
"Every dating problem?"
That's right - every dating problem!
My research teaches you, step by step, all the time tested, proven, insider secrets of how you can find, attract, meet and date successfully using class, style, dignity and integrity and never get used in a relationship again. I explode all the myths and show you what really works.
By putting the dating successes and failures of over 10,000 single men and women to work for you. You'll learn - and then master - all the skills you need to find, attract, meet and date effectively. You'll also learn how to spot and deal with, or completely avoid, anyone who just wants to use and abuse you for their pleasure at your expense. And I reveal all this to you in plain English in the privacy of your own home in a complete home study course.
"Wait a minute. The dating successes and failures of over 10,000 single men and women? You're kidding. No one has access to those numbers."
I did. For 14 years I very carefully studied over 10,000 single men and women of all ages, sizes, types, I.Q.'s, financial statuses, educational backgrounds, races, creeds and colors from all walks of life do their best to find, attract, meet, ask out and date someone for a romantic relationship on some level. I saw their initial contact, listened to their personal conversations and interviewed them when it was all over. And I took notes. Lots of them. What other instructor, coach, teacher, psychologist, mentor or guru can say that - and then back it up with facts, statistics, data, research and proof?
"What kind of a set up was this?"
It wasn't a "set up". I studied real men and women in real life, in real time, in the real world, in a natural environment. It was the perfect classroom.
"Where could this perfect classroom possibly be?"
The perfect classroom was all the bars, restaurants and nightclubs in Hollywood and Los Angeles where I worked. I was a bartender.
That may not sound too scientific to you at first but think about it for a moment. What other laboratory gives you unlimited access and observation to real people in real life, in real time, in a natural environment doing their best to find, attract, meet, talk with and ask out members of the opposite sex for a romantic relationship on some level?
Imagine the position I was in.
I was able to intimately watch, carefully listen to, closely examine and then study in detail every aspect of the dating scene: What they wore, their hair style, jewelry, cologne, how they made their initial contact, what they said, how they said it, their body language, the other person's reaction, everything. I also saw their fears, worries, anxieties, doubts, insecurities, awkwardness, uneasiness, shyness, lack of self confidence and uncomfortableness, as well as how they handled those feelings and overcame them.
I saw it all, I heard it all, from start to finish. And I was only three feet away. I had a front row, center seat with one huge advantage: I was able to talk with both sides, ask questions and take notes.
Because I was more than their bartender. I was their friend. As their friend, I became their confidant. As their confidant, they shared things with me even their best friends didn't know. They held nothing back. They told me anything and everything I wanted to know. And I wanted to know a lot.
It's because of this up-close and personal access I had to the winners and losers that I can make this bold statement: There is absolutely no other information like this in existence that's been written by a qualified authority - anywhere, at any price.
In short, my complete home study course is the most effective Dating System known to the human race. No brag, just fact.
"Can you prove it?"
I'm glad you asked. I teach my students before they accept any answer from any authority on any subject they need to ask that person three questions:
1) Why should I listen to you (what are your credentials)?
2) What is the source of your information?
3) Can you prove it?
Then I tell them they need to get cold, hard facts (not theory or hype) that answer those questions to their satisfaction and approval.
So let me answer those questions to your satisfaction and approval by telling you three things:
1) Who I am.
2) How I did my research.
3) How I proved my complete home study course really is "the most effective Dating System known to the human race."
1) Who I am. Allow me to introduce myself. I'm Bryan Redfield. For fourteen years I worked as a bartender in various bars, nightclubs and restaurants in Hollywood and Los Angeles, from cheap bowling alleys and strip joints to posh restaurants in Beverly Hills to some of the hottest bars and nightclubs in town, giving me complete exposure to the human condition. I even worked at the world famous Chippendales.
As a bartender in Hollywood I saw it all, I heard it all, I did it all. Over and over and over again. I was in this classroom for fourteen long years. I got my Ph.D. in Dating from behind the bar. My major was Dating Street Smarts with minors in psychology, sociology, head trips, games, cute opening lines, slick approaches... well, you get the idea.
Do I have fancy letters after my name like Ph.D.? No, I don't. The reason is simple: You get titles from reading books but you get credentials from being in the trenches. Who would you rather have as your teacher? Who is going to give you more valuable, usable, practical, street smart information? Who is going to be able to answer your questions? Who is going to be able to get you the results you want? You be the judge.
So, in a field where titles are worthless and credentials are everything, those are my credentials and that's why you should listen to me.
This was Hollywood.
I watched and studied movie stars, actors, rock stars, multimillionaires, heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals. I even studied tri-sexuals (Sure, you've heard of them. They'd try anything.). I studied Whites, Blacks, Indians, Mexicans and Asians. I studied the super beautiful, Playmates of the Month, the average and below average in appearance, the handicapped (mentally, emotionally and physically), and the down right repulsive and ugly. I studied every profession from business owners, employers and managers to white collar professionals, accountants, secretaries, clerks and salespeople to blue collar workers, common laborers, taxicab drivers and bikers. I watched old men with young women and old women with young men. I studied drug addicts, drunks, prostitutes, pimps, panhandlers and a grab bag of strippers, con artists, gold diggers, drag queens, groupies, ladies men, gigolos and an assortment of would-be studs. If they were in the human race, and I'm not sure all of them were, I watched them take their best shot at meeting someone they were attracted to without making themselves look stupid or foolish.
Not one of them wanted to get rejected, hurt or abused.
I saw and heard every conceivable opening line and slick approach you can imagine, every trick in the book. I watched and listened to entire conversations. Thousands of them. And I took notes, lots of them. I took notes on what they wore, how they presented themselves, what was said, the way they said it, how the other person reacted, how far the conversation went, what each person said after the interaction was over. Everything.
Take a moment and think about what I had access to. I stood there, just three feet away, as an unbiased observer, watching real people in real life in real time in a natural environment do their best to make the initial contact, start a conversation and get to know someone they were attracted to. Because I was the bartender I could stand there like a fly on the wall and listen to as much of their conversation as I wanted without affecting their interaction.
Then I had the added luxury of being able to talk with both the men and the women afterwards to get their honest reaction to how the other person presented him or herself.
So I did exactly what you would have done in my position.
I very carefully studied the men and women who were the most successful in meeting members of the opposite sex for a romantic relationship on some level. What were they wearing, what where they saying, what where they doing that made them so successful? I wanted to know so I asked them.
Remember, I was their bartender. I was their friend. So they held nothing back. They told me everything I wanted to know. And I wanted to know a lot. I saw what worked. I saw what didn't work. And, because I was able to talk with both parties after the initial contact, I found out why. And, as I said, I took notes. Lots of them. I saw simple patterns that worked. And, yes, I reveal all of this to you (and a whole lot more) in my complete home study course.
I also studied the losers. What were they wearing, what were they saying, what were they doing that made them so unsuccessful? I wanted to know so I very carefully studied them, too.
I watched, studied and listened to the winners and the losers
and asked them questions because that's where you learn
the real rules of the game.
That's where you learn what really works because they're the ones with their hearts on the line. They're the ones who are at risk. They're the ones who actually face the fears, doubts, insecurities, heartache and pain on a daily basis and have to find some way of successfully dealing with them if they want to be involved in a happy, loving, fulfilling, win-win, romantic relationship.
I wanted to know what they were doing, how they were doing it, why they were doing it and the actual results they got from it. As you can guess, some of them succeeded royally, some of them failed miserably. Most fell somewhere in-between.
In watching, studying and listening to these single people interact, I didn't care who had the best wardrobe, the cutest opening line or the slickest approach.
I just wanted to know one thing: What really works?
Based on results in the real world, using real people in real situations in real time in a natural environment, what method, procedure, technique or system of approaching, meeting and interacting with people, what opening line, consistently gets the most positive responses, gets the other person to take you seriously, and allows you to present yourself with class, style, dignity and integrity?
In short, what process, from start to finish, gives you the best chance of success to make the initial contact, start an honest conversation and get to know the other person? Whichever opening line won, whichever System got the best results, based on cold, hard, scientific, statistical data and proof, won the right to be called "the most effective Dating System known to the human race."
As I did my research, took notes and analyzed my data, I saw patterns of success and patterns of failure. As an unbiased observer, I was quick to see success and failure had nothing to do with how good looking, well built or well dressed the person was. It also had nothing to do with how much money they had or how intelligent they were. Nor did it have anything to do with age, height, weight, race, creed, color or their profession.
I saw certain patterns that out-performed the others, time and time again. I saw certain patterns that virtually guaranteed success and others than guaranteed failure. It didn't matter who used them or what they looked like. Use one pattern and you succeed. Use the other pattern and you fail. It was really that simple. And I had years of research to prove it.
No wonder the winners and successful men and women were so successful. They were all using the same basic system, whether they knew it or not. And no wonder the losers and unsuccessful people all looked so stupid and got rejected, used and abused. They didn't know what they were doing. They had no system, no proof, of what works. And no wonder the losers had no self-confidence. Genuine self confidence comes from learning something, trying it and proving to yourself it works. Without proof it works all you have is arrogance and conceit.
Anyway, that's how I gathered my data. That's the source of my information. That's how I did my research.
3) How I proved it really is "the most effective Dating System known to the human race." As you can imagine, people came to me for advice. Thousands of them. When they had a specific problem, I gave them the specific technique I'd watched others use successfully to solve that particular problem.
Maybe they had no self confidence. Maybe they didn't know how to make their shyness work for them instead of against them. Maybe they were terrified of being rejected. Maybe they were afraid of looking stupid. Maybe they didn't know how to deal with their nervousness. Maybe it was what to wear or the initial approach. Maybe they didn't have a clue as to how to start a conversation with someone they were attracted to or what to talk about. Maybe it was how to ask someone out without being embarrassed. Maybe it was what to say on the first phone call or where to go for the first date. Whatever it was, I matched the solution to their problem and they eagerly came back with their results so I could polish it even more.
When they saw my advice was helping them
they really opened up to me.
Wouldn't you?
They told me their heartaches, their insecurities, their fears, their successes, their failures, what they did, what they should have done, what they wish they did, what they didn't know how to do, everything. If it was something that affected a man or a woman, for better or worse, in their pursuit of a romantic relationship, if it was something that could happen between two people who were romantically attracted to each other, I saw it all and heard it all... thousands of times.
I asked these people questions and took notes. I took notes on what worked and what didn't work. I asked the successful men and women how they overcame their fears, their shyness, their insecurities, their doubts, their nervousness, how they gained self-confidence and overcame their fear of rejection. I asked them questions on anything and everything I could think of that affected their success and happiness or contributed to their failure and misery.
Then I passed these proven techniques on to the unsuccessful men and women who came to me for advice and asked them to give me their feedback. They eagerly came back to me with their results because we worked on exactly what they needed help with. Then, together, we polished and perfected it even more. After all, they were highly motivated because they were all lonely, in pain, and wanted someone to love them. And they knew I could show them how to get it.
We covered all areas of dating from their fears, anxieties and insecurities, to what wear and where to look for good dating prospects, up through the second date.
They told me the problems they were really having. I didn't have to guess or make anything up. I couldn't have guessed at some of the problems because I didn't know what they were going through. But they did and they told me. They left no stone unturned.
They came to me with their problems and asked me the questions on how to solve those problems. Then I did the research by asking the successful men and women how they handled it. I took the solutions from the successful men and women, went back to the unsuccessful men and women, and told them what to do. They field tested it.
Their feedback, the smiles on their faces and
their personal happiness in their win-win, romantic relationships
let me know how well it worked.
Remember, I was one of their best friends with one huge difference: I could give them help and advice that really worked... and they knew it because I'd proved it to them. That's why they were so open and painfully honest with me. And that's how, together, we were able to iron out, fine-tune, and polish the System, point by point, step by step, technique by technique. It was that simple.
They came to me with all their problems. They came to me lonely, afraid, upset, frustrated, confused and angry at not being able to get what they wanted. Sometimes I just asked them, "What's wrong?" and let them talk. Sometimes I asked, "What's the worst dating and relationship problem you've got right now?" Sometimes I asked, "What is it you need the most help with?" Other times I asked, "Where are you at with the System and what pieces are you missing or having the most trouble with?" Then I took them step by step, at their own pace, through the entire System.
I took these dating success short cuts, secrets and techniques to the average man and woman who asked me for advice and they used them to get the kind of win-win, romantic relationship they so secretly desired. I proved to them and myself it worked. You'd think that was enough, that I had my proof and I could stop there... but it wasn't.
I wanted rock solid, undeniable proof this System worked for anyone, regardless of their age, background or their limitations (mentally, emotionally, physically or financially). And I wanted proof it worked anywhere, any time, any place, not just in a bar.
So I asked myself, "What constitutes rock solid, undeniable proof?"
In this field, rock solid, undeniable proof consists of giving the total losers a Dating System that shows them, step by step, each part of the process, in simple, easy to understand, plain English and gets them the results they so secretly desire, regardless of how lost, insecure, shy, beat up, hopeless or in pain they are.
So I went to the men and women I personally felt had no chances of success in the dating world. The total losers.
They had to meet these conditions: They had to be desperate, lonely, miserable, frustrated and truly believe their chances of success were zero. They had to be beaten up, abused, rejected, taken advantage of, have no self confidence and basically be hopeless.
They were convinced they were too shy, too insecure, too old, too ugly, too poor, too dumb, too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, too... well, you get the idea. Collectively, they were the losers of the dating game without a clue as to what they were doing, how to do it, what the real rules of the game were, or how to win. They didn't have a chance in the dating world and they knew it. So did I. They were so used to losing they'd given up. But they were still lonely and wanted to stop the pain so they made token efforts to succeed.
In short, they were exactly what I was looking for because they were
the perfect group to field test my System.
They didn't know it but I was about to become the answer to their prayers. And, to be honest, they were the answer to my prayers, too. This group could give me the rock solid, undeniable proof I needed and wanted as to whether or not my Dating System really worked because I knew if it worked for them it would work for anyone, any time, any place, anywhere.
What made this group even more perfect was they didn't expect it to work. They were convinced nothing could help them but they agreed they had nothing to lose so they would give it a token effort.
Like I said, they were the perfect group to field test my Dating System.
I very carefully selected these people. When they came to me for advice, often times in tears, I told them I'd help them if they would do three easy, simple things.
First, they needed to listen to what I said.
Second, they had to promise me they'd do the easy, simple homework exercises I gave them.
And third, they had to come back to me with their results.
That was it. If they did those three things I told them I would give them all the personal instruction they wanted. I'd answer any of their questions and get expert advice from the men and women who were extremely successful in dating. And, what's more, I guaranteed, no matter how beat up, abused, lost or unsuccessful they were, they would succeed.
Pretty gutsy on my part, huh?
But that's how confident I was of my research. After all, my teachers were the best in the business.
These desperate, lost souls didn't want hype, they just wanted to stop the pain, end the abuse and cure their loneliness. They wanted to be loved, cared for, understood and accepted unconditionally. They wanted results. And they wanted them now. Pure and simple. They wanted an easy to learn, simple, proven System they could custom-tailor to fit themselves, not some generic, one-size-fits-all, garbage. And that's exactly what I gave them: A highly specialized, deeply personal, intimate Dating System they could custom- tailor to fit their individual needs, wants and desires and apply it to each person they met and each situation they were in.
Here's what happened.
Once they started listening to me, and doing the easy, simple homework exercises I gave them, they quickly found out a lack of knowledge doesn't mean a lack of ability. To put it mildly, they were shocked with the results. They learned the true meaning of what William James, the great psychologist, meant when he said, "Change your thoughts and you'll change your world."
Often times the total losers, in spite of themselves, said, "I can't believe how easy this is! I actually met someone who likes me that I'm really attracted to and our relationship is working out!" Then, from the bottom of their heart, they added, "Thanks, Bryan."
Did the ugly, repulsive people get Playmates of the Month, Playgirl Centerfolds and multimillionaires? Of course not. What they got were win-win, romantic relationships that made them truly happy because they were based on respect, common ground, friendship, sex and unconditional love.
And isn't that what you're really after?
Will you be able to get anyone you want? No. Only a liar would claim that and only an idiot would believe it. What you will get is the same thing all of my students who listen to me and do the easy, simple homework exercises get: A positive, healthy, constructive, win-win, romantic relationship where they are loved, cared for, understood and accepted, unconditionally.
No matter how bad off you are or think you are, people a lot worse off than you have ever been or ever will be used my System to find, attract, meet, talk with and date someone they were attracted to for a win-win, romantic relationship on some level that made them both happy. I know because I taught them myself, person to person, one on one. No abuse, no lies, no con games, no head trips, no tricks, no using the other person, no winners and losers. Just two winners in the game of love. It's really that simple.
It doesn't matter how unsuccessful you've been in the past. Put my complete home study course to work for you and you'll be shocked at what a difference a day makes.
To put it bluntly, there is no other expert in this field
who can match my credentials, my research or my proof.
To prove it I will go up against anyone, seasoned expert or rank amateur, anywhere, any time, any place, and match my knowledge, expertise, skills, research and proof - in short, my System - against the best they have to offer and I will always win because the first three questions I'm going to ask them are: "What are your credentials? What is the source of your information? And can you prove it?"
Then, when all is said and done, I'll let you be the judge.
I know what works. I know what doesn't work. And I know why.
I have fourteen years of rock solid research, data, statistics and proof to back up everything I say. And I reveal it all to you in my complete home study course.
So when I tell you it's "the most effective Dating System known to the human race" you can rest assured the answer, like all of my information, is based on years of watching the real experiences of thousands of real people in the real world in real time.
People just like you.
And then having thousands of real people who were unsuccessful romantically field test it on their own to prove to themselves it works.
It did. It does. And it will work for you.
That's how I proved it worked.
Now you know who I am, how I did my research and how I got my proof. In a field where titles are worthless and credentials are everything, I think you'll agree I have my competition beat, hands down, across the board. No brag, just fact.
What does this mean for you?
It means you'll get the most advanced, scientifically proven Dating System know to the human race. It's been tested, polished, fine-tuned and proven, over and over again by real people, in real time, in the real world, in a natural environment. People just like you.
This easy to learn System has been polished and fine-tuned so it can be used anywhere, any time, any place, not just in a bar, nightclub or restaurant. And it can be used by anyone, regardless of their age, limitations, physical appearance or background to start a relationship from scratch.
It means you'll get the truth at last.
Ask any self help guru and he'll tell you the easiest way to succeed, the shortest road to success, is to model yourself after other successful people in your field.
Well, with my complete home study course you gain access to the personal experiences of over 10,000 single people who have tried their best to succeed romantically. You'll have their successes and failures at your fingertips so you don't have to make their mistakes and you can capitalize on their successes. My complete home study course, The Redfield System, is the surest road map to getting a successful, win-win, romantic relationship in the shortest period of time known to the human race. No brag, just fact.
What's in this for you?
What will you learn?
Based on results (and what other criteria matters?), one of the critical things my research uncovered is the actual process of meeting someone you're attracted to for the very first time is broken down into two distinct stages: